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Setting Goals, Not Rules

Writer's picture: Brandi Stalzer, LIMHP, LPCC, LMHCBrandi Stalzer, LIMHP, LPCC, LMHC

Building a Sustainable Self-Care Routine in the New Year


The pressure to create resolutions in January often leads to rigid rules that are hard to maintain. While goals can be motivating, rules tend to set us up for failure by creating an all-or-nothing mindset.


Someone creates a list in their planner.

Instead of setting rules that limit or restrict you, consider building a self-care routine that allows flexibility, growth, and compassion. Here’s how to set sustainable goals for 2025 that focus on nurturing your mental and physical health.


Why Rules Don’t Work


Rules like “never eat dessert” or “work out every day” are often unrealistic and can lead to feelings of guilt when they’re inevitably broken. This rigidity can also increase anxiety and stress, making it harder to stay consistent.


Goals, on the other hand, are adaptable and give you room to grow. By focusing on progress rather than perfection, you’re more likely to sustain positive changes.


How to Build a Self-Care Routine

  1. Start Small

    Break larger goals into smaller, manageable steps. For example, instead of committing to an hour of exercise daily, aim for 10–15 minutes a few times a week and build from there.

  2. Prioritize Rest

    Rest is a critical part of self-care, but it’s often overlooked. Incorporate downtime into your routine to recharge physically and emotionally.

  3. Celebrate Progress

    Acknowledge even the smallest wins. Whether it’s drinking more water or journaling once a week, every step forward matters.

  4. Embrace Imperfection

    Life isn’t perfect, and your routine doesn’t have to be either. Allow flexibility for unexpected changes and approach setbacks with kindness.

  5. Focus on What Feels Good

    Choose activities that bring you joy and help you feel grounded. Whether it’s yoga, painting, or connecting with loved ones, self-care should be something you look forward to.


Sustainable self-care is about balance, not perfection. By setting adaptable goals instead of rigid rules, you can create a routine that supports your well-being throughout the year.


At Libra Virtual Care, we’re committed to helping you thrive. If you’re ready to explore how therapy can be part of your self-care plan, reach out to us today.

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